i’m not sure why it bothers me. spend the money. it’s not mine. i don’t have it, i don’t access it, it comes to your hand, and gets spent on things that, granted, are “for the family,” but i can stretch that well-worn phrase to cover such things as video games and dinners out at McDonald’s, which you so seldom participate in but have a way of making it known how unhappy you are about it.
you called me to tell me that you bought the dishwasher. thanks. now i know. but don’t expect me to give retro-active opinion or advice. really, the money is yours, and you spent it, and that’s that. just be honest about it. call it what it is. stop saying the money is ours if it’s spent only by one person, no matter how “noble” the item of purchase.